Who Do You Admire?

It is said that modeling is one of the powerful success technique you can leverage. We all know people that we admire, people that we wish we were more like. 


Before you start modelling others behaviour I believe it is essential to know who yourself. What are your strengths? Not only what you are good at but what makes you feel strong and competent. What gives you energy and resilience?

One size does not fit all. Sometimes in order to fit in and be accepted we put aside our own unique experience, values and loose touce with our inner resources.
If you are feeling tired, unmotivated, lacking in enthusiasm the chances are it is time to take stock of who you are and who you want to be.
To recognise what are the inner resources that you have that make you feel strong, competent, enthusiastic and at your best. Then to incorporate or experiment with their successful strategies of those you admire; their skills, beliefs, attitudes and values. 


More significant for me, is the importance  of knowing your beliefs, attitudes and values. Which one's are working for you and which do you need to change. Then look at someone you admire and observe what it is that they do to achieve the results that you would like.


I would like to be more courageous. 
I don't want to scale Mt. Kilimanjaro, although I admire people who do. I want to be courageous in trying out new challenges. Speaking out for things that matter to me. Being the best I can be as a mother, a friend, a human being. 


I can model aspects of Nelson Mandela, a sister at the Sisters of Charity Orphanage in Pondicherry and Melinda Gates, my girlfriend who has battled cancer and many others. It is knowing what others do to find their inner strength and practicing it and adding it to my own resources.


I would love to hear how this has worked for you. 

“Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a personal standard, reaching for the highest that is in us, becoming all that we can be.” Zig Ziglar

The more things change the more they stay the same

The only constant is change, wrote the greek philosopher Heraclitus in the 6th Century BC. 


This is true. However the interesting thing is that although things change our response to the change may still remain the same.
I find myself stuck in patterns that are no longer useful to me. I am sur that I am not the only one! The trick is to spot these patterns/habits and replace them with something more empowering. 


This is quite a process.
• Identify what's not working
• Reflect on why, how, when, where this doesn't work for you          
• What is going to work better? How will this change your life/work/ relationship
• How are you going to implement this change? What might stop you?
• How are you going to measure your success?
• How are you going to make this change stick?

Socrates said, “ Enlightenment lies not in the answer but in the question.”

Sustainable Change requires a Sustainable Plan

You can change for change's sake however if you want to make changes that make a difference this requires a plan. 
Change is like the tip of the iceberg. It looks like things are changing however if you don't consider what lies beneath suatainable change is unlikely. 
What is it that I want to change? 
It is the submerged part of the iceberg that gets in the way. It is those things that we keep invisible that trip us up.

Having a plan necessitates that you think about your goal.
What will it look like?
What will you have to do to achieve it?
What are you prepared to do, what actions will you take?
What are you prepared to let go?
Is it in line with your values?
What will get in your way? (Most of the time it is YOU)
Is it realistic or is it something I think I should do?
What will be my first step and all the steps there after. How will I know I have achieved it?
How will it make a difference to me/others ?
How am I going to support these changes?
SO many questions.
Unless you set the foundations there is nothing to support your good intentions they will melt away.
You will be left with another question. Why didn't that work?